Being a ‘success’ in today’s world is not a matter of chance. It is a matter of choice. And if you truly want to
be successful then you have to make that choice and commitment today. But how exactly do we define
The first rule is simple but crucial and it is this – don’t ever compare yourself to others because that does
not define success. We are all on our own path through life with different goals, aspirations and dreams. If
we try to emulate others we will probably fail. Success is all about defining your own goals and then being
able to measure how you are progressing towards meeting those goals. These must always be YOUR goals
and not goals someone else has set for you or goals that others have set for themselves. They have to
come from within you – from within your inner ‘higher self’.
Here are eight simple steps to help you enjoy this journey to success and to get amazing results on the
Step 1 – Set Your Own Goals
Setting your own goals is fundamental to success so you must know right from the start what it is you are
trying to achieve and then you must write these things down. It is very important that the goals that are
locked inside your head are set down on paper otherwise how are you going to ‘attract’ them to you and
bring them into your life? The universe is listening for what you are seeking and writing your goals down is
part of that process.
Sometimes opportunities come knocking at our door but if you don’t recognise them for what they are
then they will simply go away. You have to know what it is you are trying to attract and then be ready to
accept good fortune when it comes knocking. So a good place to start is to find a notebook right now and
then write down exactly what it is you want to achieve. Yes – sometimes putting your goals and dreams
down on a piece of paper can be scary and daunting but it is very important to put down in writing what is
currently held in your mind. That is because ‘things’ happen twice; first in your head and then they
become reality, but only after they are written down. It’s like planning to build a new house. You have to
start by designing it first in the form of an architectural drawing. Only then can it become a reality.
You have to start with an image or picture in your mind of what you want to achieve – and what you
deserve – in order that your inner emotional and spiritual self can start working on it. So write down all
your goals in your notebook and then make sure you read and re-read them every single day so that they
can become manifest. Then, as you achieve each goal, tick them off one by one and also add new goals as
they come to you. This will give you a much stronger sense of significance in your life as well as bringing
Step 2 – Stay Focused
In order to ensure you stay focused on your goals you have to eliminate all unwanted distractions. We are
all guilty of trying to do too much and that is a recipe for becoming massively overwhelmed. Instead, you
must teach yourself to stay focused and stay on track. You cannot afford to get derailed. Using different
terminology the ‘distributor’ has to stay in tune with the ‘receiver’ at all times. For example, the postman
can only deliver you something if you are there to receive it! So you need to be in a receptive frame of
mind in order for things to come to you. It is also very important to get rid of unwanted and unhelpful
procrastinations. A good motto is: ‘Let come to you what is coming and let go of what is going’. This is a
simple but effective way of creating more mental clarity. When you are unfocused and therefore not fully concentrating, it opens the door for distractions to get in your way. You must therefore learn to ‘create
space’ by letting go of everything that you no longer need. That newly created space enables something
new to come in. So try to be present, be aware and be patient. When you are really focused you will be
more ready to receive what is coming to you in that new space.
But how do we make this happen and let it become part of our ‘journey’ to success? We need to move to
Step 3 – Creating a Positive Mindset
A positive mindset will enable you to better focus on your goals as well as giving you greater clarity and the
ability to concentrate. So Step three is all part of enabling you to fulfil the first two steps described above.
But first you must learn how to create a positive mindset as this will help you to attract more beneficial
and more beautiful things into your life. A positive mindset enables you to focus your mind, your emotions
and your energy in a more powerful way so that the final outcome is more constructive and productive. It
is important that you don’t waste your energy on anything negative or it will simply drain you. Anything
negative that distracts you from achieving your goals must be completely eliminated. Negative things will
only waste your precious energy and your precious time. Investing in a positive mindset is therefore a must
if you are serious about wanting success. Although this is easier to say then do – and let’s admit it that we
are all fallible – to achieve what you desire in life a positive mindset is urgent, essential and fundamental.
So this is really a wake-up call. It is time to focus all your attention on learning to change your mindset and
creating a new paradigm. A new and better way of thinking to get positive results.
Step 4 – Find a Mentor
Achieving success can be a lonely journey. That’s why we all need someone to help us, guide us and to
support us on our journey. This will also to help us avoid wasting our time on the wrong things. Sometimes
we all take the wrong path and make mistakes and that is simply human nature. Although it is sometimes
good to learn from our mistakes it can save us a lot of time if we can learn from other people’s mistakes
too. A good mentor may well have already found solutions for the challenges you are going through. They
can therefore help you to achieve what they have already achieved and help you to avoid the pitfalls they
made themselves. But it is important to make sure you select a mentor who has already achieved more
than you have achieved! Never seek advice from someone who is more inexperienced than you and never
make the mistake of assuming that friends, neighbours or family have the answers you are looking for!
The key is very simple – if you want to achieve success then always seek advice from successful people
Step 5 – Let The Past Go
As stated above, a good maxim is to always let come what is coming and let go of what needs to be gone.
Revisiting the past can sometimes be very painful and yet many people choose to continue living in the
past. This approach only serves to hold them back and involves wasting precious energy on reliving old
mistakes and failures rather than having the courage to let them go. It is perfectly okay to revisit the past
sometimes, but there is no need to stay there for long! It is important to keep your ‘mental house’ clean at
all times because old memories can sometimes bring back unwanted anxieties. So you must metaphorically
‘open the door’ of your mental house and let all the unwanted and toxic memories go in order to create
more space for newer and better things to come in. In addition, memories of past failures can stop you
from trying similar things today. Failing once does NOT mean you will fail again, so don’t let past issues
hold you back from trying again. Take a fresh approach and set yourself new goals with new rules that you
know you can make happen. If you have the courage and the willpower you can do anything.
Step 6 – Invest in Yourself
Investing in yourself is, without doubt, the best investment you will ever make. It is essentially the ‘how’ to
make things happen. Investing in material things like cars, parties and new clothes etc is absolutely fine – as
long as it is temporary – but the return on investment is not great. By investing in yourself, in contrast, you
are making sure you get a very good return on investment because eventually the returns will be greater.
In short, you will get the investment back. The key message here is that you need to focus on investing in
things that are an ‘asset’ to you and not a ‘liability’. So what are these assets exactly? An Asset can be new
skills, new knowledge, new insights or new openings and opportunities. In other words, things that help
you achieve what you desire, like education and formal qualifications etc. These things can without doubt
double or treble your personal investment in yourself. So start by making a list of all the investments you
need to make in yourself and then start investing without delay.
Step 7 – Extend Your Network
Extending your network of contacts is all about people and becoming part of a wider community. In many
ways your ‘network’ is your ‘net worth’. In other words, the more time you invest in expanding your
network the more the rewards in the long term. Today there a multitudes of ways to network with like-
minded people – even in these times of lockdown. Just for a moment, imagine your life with a really strong
and good network of contacts. A network of 100 or more individuals can bring a great return on
investment in so many ways. Being realistic, without the help of other people it will be more difficult to
reach your destination but always be aware that people can ‘make you or break you’. So be careful who
you invite into your inner circle. If you want success in life and in business then invest carefully in your
network and always continue to extend your network. Do whatever it takes to build your community of
like-minded people who will quickly become your support tribe! This is key to your ultimate success.
Step 8 – Stop Thinking – Start Doing!
This final tip is probably the most important. It is a key principle that separates winners from losers. The
time has come to stop ‘trying’, stop ‘thinking’ and instead start focusing all your energy on ‘doing’. It takes
a lot of courage to leave our comfort zone and to stop procrastinating and start doing. But if we can learn
to master this skill we will have learned a crucial life lesson that all successful people know instinctively. As
Richard Branson puts it; ‘First I do it and then I think about it’. In other words there is a clear message.
Don’t waste time on ‘trying’ and don’t waste time on too much over-thinking. We learn best by ‘doing’ and
when we realise this truth our chances of success are hugely increased.
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About Mirela Sula
Mirela Sula has worked in media and education for the last 20 years and has
speaking experience all around the world. Her background takes in psychology and
counselling, journalism, teaching, coaching, women’s rights and media training.
Mirela is CEO and the founder of Global Woman Magazine and Global Woman